Saturday, August 24, 2013

a modge podge

HELLOOOOO CHATTANOOGA!!!!

Long time no speak.

Updates of my life:
Was wrecked in June, a lady almost killed me on Hixson pike. Minor injuries were sustained.
I bought a new car! Toyota Rav 4, 2013 (for all you who thumb your noses at me, 100% paid for by me)
New job! I teach 7th grade math at Chattanooga Girls Leadership Academy, and I LOVE IT. I love my team, and I love my girls. I got lucky.
Still in graduate school. Will finish May 2014. Not. Soon. Enough.
Moved into my Abuela's, and I've decided to stay here.

Ramblings from a frustrated mind...

I really can't stand the phrase "you don't know how I feel." No one can tell you how you currently feel, how you have felt, or how you will feel. I can't stand when people are going through something and you're trying to be helpful and they throw things in your face. Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to say people's problems aren't bad. But just because someone isn't CURRENTLY going through what you are, doesn't give you the right to assume or voice what they have endured or how it's made them feel.

Which brings me to...
Don't talk down to people. I don't care if you've been teaching 30 years, or 2 weeks. I don't care if you've been through graduate school 5,000 times, don't talk down to people like they are stupid, or more importantly like you know more than they do. I am a FIRM believer that everyone in this world can learn to do something from someone else, or can gain information from someone else, everyone has something to offer. If you don't believe me, spend a day with any kid of any age. If you didn't learn something, you're the problem. That being said, I fully expect certain people to talk down to me. My boss, parents, certain people in a certain way. When you are my equal in every way, it is unacceptable. What your tone and actions. And if by chance this is just "your personality" you'd better find a new one and soon, because I may not say something to you, but the same can't be said for the rest of society.

One upping...
DON'T do this. Myself (and many people) across the globe HATE one uppers. If someone has had a bad day, do NOT reply with, "really, how about my day..." no. If I've worked 14 hour days for 3 weeks, I don't really care if you've worked one for a day. Welcome to life. When someone graduates, do not shove your engagement ring in their face, their degree will get them further than your ring anyways. If you can't say anything consoling to that person, then smile and shake your head sorrowfully for them and move on. Don't be rude.

Doing things you don't want to...
In life, there are always times you will have to do things you don't really want to do. I am the queen of this, because I don't want to do 75% of what I do, but I like to make people happy, so I do it. HOWEVER, when it comes to doing things with me, if you don't want to do it, or aren't interested, than just say so. Because I can easily find someone else to do it with, or will do whatever it is by myself, but I certainly do not need anyone to do anything for or with me that they aren't interested in. SO just don't.

On a more lighthearted note...
I've had a wonderful birthday week, my baby brother is all move away to college and I miss his guts, I've made some great friends at my new work, and I'm loving living with abuela. I have few complaints about life, other than I'm still itching to travel, and I'm not sure where that will be taking me in the future. Also, I've been sucked into a novela with abuela, and it's pretty much amazing.

"It's been a long time, been a long time, been a lonely, lonely, lonely, lonely time."